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The Importance Of Eye Contact
2009-03-20 by Matt
Eye Contact
The importance of solid eye contact and how to use it for maximum success
By Matthew Kirsch
Since the beginning of time, eye contact has and remains to be one of the most successful indicators of interest from the opposite sex. That being said, the types of eye contact vary from culture to culture but there are three overall standards techniques that you as a man can use to your advantage.
Number 1- The Gaze
This is one of the most important things that a man can do when he wants to show his interest in a nearby female. When eye contact is made between the two of you, give her a soft inviting gaze. Your eyes should feel like they are smiling. The easiest way to achieve this is to think of both of you naked in bed. Many guys suffer from what we in the community call “shifty eyes”. This is where a guy will look up, down, left right, maybe right in her eyes, down at her breasts, back at the ceiling, and then at that hottie that just walked by. That is a huge “no no”. You as a man need to show her that your attention is on her and only her, because from the moment you walk up to a woman, her mind is monitoring your behaviors to see if you fit what she is looking for.
Number 2- The Break
Just as important as the first initiation of eye contact is the break. Remember gentlemen, you should hold firm yet soft eye contact and she should be the first one to break it. It is a subtle, yet longtime signal of submission that is hardwired into our human psyche. If by chance, she isn’t budging, and you can’t hold it any longer, either get up and start walking over or slowly look away to your right or left, never down. As a man, you should never submit to a female, it would leave her feeling awkward and disappointed. She wants a man, not a boy…So give it to her..(No not that, not yet) ;)
Number 3- The Smile
A man’s smile can send a woman millions of signals without a word. It speaks confidence, sexuality, nervousness, anxiety, unexpectedness, or creepiness. It can let a woman know you haven’t been laid in months or project that you were just ravaged last night by three sexy goddesses. Remember gentlemen, these ladies are not a piece of steak, so flashing all those teeth with eyes bugging out, just might creep them out a bit. Put on your smile, then pull it back, shoot a shorter but genuine smile, and this will go along way.
Contact
At this point, you have either gotten up and began to walk over to her, or you have exchanged a few flirting glances and now it is time to make your move. Consider your surroundings and quickly establish a comment or conversation starter. Now get up, breath in and out, and walk over. Next week, we will talk about conversation starters; how, when, and what not to say when initiating contact with a beautiful female.
The importance of solid eye contact and how to use it for maximum success
By Matthew Kirsch
Since the beginning of time, eye contact has and remains to be one of the most successful indicators of interest from the opposite sex. That being said, the types of eye contact vary from culture to culture but there are three overall standards techniques that you as a man can use to your advantage.
Number 1- The Gaze
This is one of the most important things that a man can do when he wants to show his interest in a nearby female. When eye contact is made between the two of you, give her a soft inviting gaze. Your eyes should feel like they are smiling. The easiest way to achieve this is to think of both of you naked in bed. Many guys suffer from what we in the community call “shifty eyes”. This is where a guy will look up, down, left right, maybe right in her eyes, down at her breasts, back at the ceiling, and then at that hottie that just walked by. That is a huge “no no”. You as a man need to show her that your attention is on her and only her, because from the moment you walk up to a woman, her mind is monitoring your behaviors to see if you fit what she is looking for.
Number 2- The Break
Just as important as the first initiation of eye contact is the break. Remember gentlemen, you should hold firm yet soft eye contact and she should be the first one to break it. It is a subtle, yet longtime signal of submission that is hardwired into our human psyche. If by chance, she isn’t budging, and you can’t hold it any longer, either get up and start walking over or slowly look away to your right or left, never down. As a man, you should never submit to a female, it would leave her feeling awkward and disappointed. She wants a man, not a boy…So give it to her..(No not that, not yet) ;)
Number 3- The Smile
A man’s smile can send a woman millions of signals without a word. It speaks confidence, sexuality, nervousness, anxiety, unexpectedness, or creepiness. It can let a woman know you haven’t been laid in months or project that you were just ravaged last night by three sexy goddesses. Remember gentlemen, these ladies are not a piece of steak, so flashing all those teeth with eyes bugging out, just might creep them out a bit. Put on your smile, then pull it back, shoot a shorter but genuine smile, and this will go along way.
Contact
At this point, you have either gotten up and began to walk over to her, or you have exchanged a few flirting glances and now it is time to make your move. Consider your surroundings and quickly establish a comment or conversation starter. Now get up, breath in and out, and walk over. Next week, we will talk about conversation starters; how, when, and what not to say when initiating contact with a beautiful female.